I would love to see you the 12th of December at my FREE Alumni Event for Co-Active Coaches
in one of my favorite training locations in the whole world.
P.S. After just 4 days with no marketing we are over half booked.
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P.P.P.S.This event is held in partnership with Schouten & Nelissen.
As young children we were all totally OK with our emotions. When we were sad, we allowed ourselves to be sad and probably simply cried.When we were happy, we laughed. And nothing inside us, nor anyone around us told us to do otherwise. It was all just fine.
Yet at some point, there was this first person who told us to not cry or to not laugh so loud. From that moment on a web of controlling mechanisms captured us and told us ‘to behave’. Whatever that may be. A system of shaming, correcting, punishment or reward tried to control our emotional behaviour. Too loud had to be dimmed, too silent had to be amplified. Too sad had to be comforted and hidden, too happy had to be normalized. Whilst nobody could give us a book which explained us what the norm was. You had to learn the hard way.
Many of us, at some point, experienced either an emotional explosion or an emotional implosion and the next step was an appointment with a therapist or a coach. And they worked hard, trying to reconnect us with our emotions and we had to learn how to laugh out loud again. Or we worked hard to learn how to express our anger ‘in a constructive way’ or to be with our sadness. Back to where we were, let’s say, up until the age of approximately 3 years old. Interesting process, don’t you think?
Dealing with our emotions in a proper way, pfff, that is hard work! Hmm, that feels weird since emotions are a normal human reaction to things that we experience. Emotions are a natural and healthy process how we can channel our energy. Emotions are ‘energy in motion, e-motion’ after all. Even the biggest spiritual teachers in the world experienced emotions, so why won’t we?
The question is actually, how to use that energy in a healthy way? For sure not by avoiding or ignoring them. One thing is for sure:
“We are killing the moment
by aiming to control our experience of it”.
yet
Experiencing sadness is not the ultimate goal
Experiencing happiness is not the ultimate goal
Strive to simply be content with whatever is,
In any given moment.
By Alex Verlek, November 2019.
JOY IS: Breath taking views and the sounds of nature. Nothing but nature.
The place where I recharge.
My church.
I’m curious what is your favourite place to recharge?
Here is a gift for you. Fulfillment on 1 A4.
Explore what your clients need to stay on the green path. How’s their inner compass informing them. How do they keep this compass calibrated by honouring values and vision. Be curious what they want to read on the billboard when they get to the horizon. What’s the footprint they want to create whilst travelling through life. What’s the legacy they want to leave for others to create from.How does it feel in the swamp when they’re off purpose.
Let me know how it serves you, or even more important, your clients.
Have fun with it!